HEALTHY LOVE AND ADDICTIVE EXCITEMENT
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All of us have great impulse for the love pursuit but our addictions snatch the genuine love from us. I share a summary of difference between Healthy Love and Addictive Excitement. I will go on posting four points at at time as a food for your thoughts.
1. Develops the healthy love after we feel secure.
Addictive love attempts to create something like love, though we feel afraid and insecure.
2. Healthy love comes out of a feel of 'FULL'....we overflow from love.
Addictive love tries just to fill an inner void.
3. Healthy love begins with 'LOVING OURSELVES'.
Addictive love keeps us away from ourselves and seek to get love from that 'Special Someone' of our projections.
4. Healthy love comes to us once we stop searching the LOVE.
Addictive love is always sought after.
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All of us have great impulse for the love pursuit but our addictions snatch the genuine love from us. I share a summary of difference between Healthy Love and Addictive Excitement. I will go on posting four points at at time as a food for your thoughts.
1. Develops the healthy love after we feel secure.
Addictive love attempts to create something like love, though we feel afraid and insecure.
2. Healthy love comes out of a feel of 'FULL'....we overflow from love.
Addictive love tries just to fill an inner void.
3. Healthy love begins with 'LOVING OURSELVES'.
Addictive love keeps us away from ourselves and seek to get love from that 'Special Someone' of our projections.
4. Healthy love comes to us once we stop searching the LOVE.
Addictive love is always sought after.
5. Healthy Love allows us to be vulnerable because we feel secure inside.
Addictive Love is based on shaky foundation. We feel we must always protect
ourselves.
6. Healthy Love grows slowly, like a tree.
Addictive love grows fast, as if by magic.
7. Healthy Love thrives on time alone as well as time with the partner.
Addictive Love is frightened of being alone.
8. Healthy Love is derived from a balance of masculine and feminine qualities within each
person.
Addictive love creates super-masculine ans super-feminine qualities and encourages
us to search for our 'missing half' in another person.
Addictive Love is based on shaky foundation. We feel we must always protect
ourselves.
6. Healthy Love grows slowly, like a tree.
Addictive love grows fast, as if by magic.
7. Healthy Love thrives on time alone as well as time with the partner.
Addictive Love is frightened of being alone.
8. Healthy Love is derived from a balance of masculine and feminine qualities within each
person.
Addictive love creates super-masculine ans super-feminine qualities and encourages
us to search for our 'missing half' in another person.
9.Healthy love encourages us to feel we have the power to create our own world and be
happy.
Addictive Love sees others as having power over us. We seek the 'perfect' partner because of the power that person seems to bring us. The catch point is intent and application.
10. Healthy love is gentle and comfortable.
Addictive love is tense and combative.
11. Healthy love encourages us to be ourselves, to be honest from beginning with who we are, including our faults.
Addictive love encourages secrets. We always try to look good and put on an attractive mask.
12. Healthy love creates a deeper sense of ourselves the longer we are together.
Addictive love creates a loss of self the longer we are together. Here self means our spirit and inner originality. The partners may decide to be alike but with pleasure and freedom.
happy.
Addictive Love sees others as having power over us. We seek the 'perfect' partner because of the power that person seems to bring us. The catch point is intent and application.
10. Healthy love is gentle and comfortable.
Addictive love is tense and combative.
11. Healthy love encourages us to be ourselves, to be honest from beginning with who we are, including our faults.
Addictive love encourages secrets. We always try to look good and put on an attractive mask.
12. Healthy love creates a deeper sense of ourselves the longer we are together.
Addictive love creates a loss of self the longer we are together. Here self means our spirit and inner originality. The partners may decide to be alike but with pleasure and freedom.
13. Healthy love gets easier as time goes on.
Addictive Love requires more effort as time goes on. It's hard to sustain a romantic image.
14. Healthy Love develops as fear decreases.
Addictive Love expands as fear increases.
15. Healthy Love is satisfied with the partner we have.
Addictive Love is always looking for "more" or better.
16. Healthy love encourages us to broaden our interests.
Addictive Love encourages us t narrow our interests.
17. Healthy love is based on the belief that we WANT TO BE TOGETHER.
Addictive Love is based on the belief that we HAVE TO BE TOGETHER.
18. Healthy Love teaches that we can only make ourselves happy.
Addictive Love the other person to make us happy and demands that we
try to make them happy.
19. Healthy Love creates life.
Addictive Love creates melodramas.
20. Healthy love is wholesome can move at its own, mutual help leads to togetherness.
Addictive love is fractured/disabled togetherness is meant for providing crutches and leads to ugly dependence.
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